We were in New Orleans many years ago, walking down the street when I saw it…a trailer for Wheel of Fortune. My heart skipped a beat with excitement because I LOVE Wheel of Fortune and have always wanted to be on the show.
Instantly, I wanted to check it out; was this my opportunity?
But with the next breath, doubt crept in and I talked myself out of it. What if I was actually cast? What if I said something wrong? What if I was made to look stupid on national television???
Fear kept me from even trying. And, who knows, I may have missed the opportunity of a lifetime.
The idea of perfection is something for which many of us strive. We are taught from an early age that making mistakes is undesirable. If we mess up, people will think less of us, and we will confirm the ever-present fear that we aren’t good enough. So we must be perfect…or at least have an image of perfection.
Over time, and after lots of personal failure, I’ve come to understand a few things…
- I’m not perfect (and neither are you) and never will be. “Perfection” is a moving target that can never actually be attained by anyone. It’s an illusion that causes unnecessary fear and anxiety.
- While I can’t think of a single regret for trying and failing at something, I have lots of regrets for making the decision to not do something out of fear.
- Failing presents more opportunity for success. I always learn more from my failures than I do my successes. And the more I know, the further I go (rhyme intended 😉)!
So, here’s the thing – if you don’t try, you automatically fail. Yes, you will be saved from the possible humiliation of failing publicly, but you’ll also have to live with not knowing your own potential for the rest of your life. I’m going to let you in on a little secret 🤫: other people’s memories when it comes to your mistakes are short, but your regret for not trying is forever.
A life lived to its fullest will be filled with mistakes. A “safe” life will be filled with regrets.
What decisions are you facing right now? What have you been putting off out of fear?
I challenge you to take a step into fear. It won’t be easy, and you might very well fail. But, when failure is viewed as an opportunity to learn and grow rather than an ending, it’s not not so scary.
If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I am not interested in or open to your feedback. There are a million cheap seats in the world today filled with people who will never be brave with their own lives, but will spend every ounce of energy they have hurling advice and judgement at those of us trying to dare greatly. Their only contributions are criticism, cynicism, and fear-mongering. If you’re criticizing from a place where you’re not also putting yourself on the line, I’m not interested in your feedback.~Brene Brown
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